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Miles from San Diego- My first online love when I was recently divorced  and living in Dallas after a 25 yr. marriage.  He was 14 years older at the time (59) and said he hadn't dated since his divorce 14 yrs ago.  Anyhow he said he was an attorney with his own divorce mediation practice in San Diego.  After 2 months of e mails, love letters and poetry from him  he invited me to San Diego.  He had said he wanted to marry me and would I consider moving to a Greek Island with you where he had a huge Spanish house in the cliffs overlooking the ocean.  He even promised to fly my 3 girls out a couple times a year so I would not get lonesome.  He racked up $900 a month phone bills calling me every night for hours.  Anyhow I flew to San Diego and he picked me up at the airport.  We had exchanged pictures but the man at the airport only faintly resembled his picture.  The picture was more than 20 yrs old and his hair was almost white now and his skin loose and sagging.  He was driving an old Chevy Malibu.  He said he had a large townhome on the ocean and we pulled up to a lovely complex.  The townhome was beautiful and right on the ocean.  He pampered me and cooked gourmet meals for me and we had a good time.  At the end of 4 days I went home and we were very sad to leave each other.  I made another trip back to San Diego 5 weeks later this trip was 10 days in duration and I told my girls if it works out I'm staying for good.  This trip he treated me like a daughter and had advice for every situation.  He had a brother that lived in Texas that I got to talk to a couple times and he was a really nice guy.  Anyhow, every day the relationship went downhill and I knew I didn't not want a relationship let alone marry this man.  I went back to Dallas relieved.  He still e mailed me from time to time but I didn't see him online for several months.  About 2 years later I was curious what had happened to him and sent his brother a Xmas card in Texas asking if Miles was all right.  His brother called me on the phone and said yes he was fine and had moved to Knoxville TN.  He (Miles) moved in with his ex and three adult children when I left as their home had burned down.  I asked him if Miles sold his California townhome.  He said Carol, Miles never owned a townhome on the ocean, he housesitted for a friend.  I said really- hmm how about the big mansion in Greece he showed me pictures of and he just started laughing.  He said Carol- Miles hasn't been to Greece since his honeymoon 40 years ago.  I said hmm- then I guess he didn't buy a Greek cruise ship and try and turn it into a time share and had it bought over to Vancouver to run it as a hotel?  How about his sailboat?  He was howling now and said "Carol , Miles is a wannabe everything"  it's all crap.  I was devastated that I had trusted him so much and his whole life was a lie and thankful that I didn't settle and end up with him.