I met him on the Internet and we chatted for several months. Every time that I suggested that we meet in person - he came up with an excuse. I thought it was strange -but he told me that he had not gotten over the death of his wife and he was still grieving for her. 

 

I thought that he needed a friend and decided that I could be that friend.  We sent cards, exchanged gifts, talked on the phone and I was sure that we would meet someday.  I had spoken with his children so I was sure that what he told me was true.

 

I could not wait for the day that we would meet. I was so looking forward to being able to reach out and touch him. To hug him, to hold him and feel his big strong arms around me.

 

After almost two years of time, thousands of dollars on long distance phone calls, I was very frustrated at the endless stream of excuses as to why we could never seem to make a time to meet.

 

Finally, I contacted WhoisHe.Com and asked if they could check out the man who had taken up so much of my heart, my energy and my life.  I had enough information about him and felt that if I could confirm what he had been telling me - I could feel okay about these delays.  I had hopes that I didn't want to dash if he was telling the truth.  I figured I could wait a little while longer.

Well I am glad that I decided to have him checked out - he was nothing he claimed to be.  He was first and foremost a married man.  He was not a man grieving for the loss of his wife. He was a man cheating on his wife, with me - and I found out later, with countless others on the "net".  He did not care that he had hurt me in  a very deep and pathetic way.  He talked of spending his life together with me. He told my son that he wanted to make me happy. Basically, he just lied.

 

He was such a good liar I did not see it coming. It was as if he had been able to worm his way into my heart -and he had no care about the effect he had on my hopes and dreams. 

 

Everyone should look at the signs that are so clear if we are willing to see them.  Do not let someone keep making excuse after excuse. If somethings feels wrong - likely it is.  It is good to know the truth and be able to deal with it. Next time I will pay more attention.  I may never be able to trust someone online again.  Not completely that is....